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Current Commentary

Summer 

A Few Thoughts and Observations About Pornography

 Pornography is rather like trying to find out about a Beethoven symphony by having somebody tell you about it and perhaps hum a few bars.
 - Robertson Davies

Pornography is mainstream. Like it or not, porn (also nicknamed 'porno') has become a way of life for a large percentage of men and an increasing number of women.

 I feel that people view porn because they are looking for something. Something porn promises but never delivers.

Digging back into history we find that religions declared anything related to the human body to be sinful. You couldn't talk about it, look at it and in some cases even have sexual relations without offending their god.

That was the red flag waved in front of the bull. That was the least risky illegal act many people could commit, least risky in the sense of being imprisoned for doing it. So they indulged.

Pornography exploded in popularity several years ago when a judge in the US declared that a woman's genitals and reproductive organs were all inside her body, out of sight, thus it was no more wrong to view a woman's vulva than her bare arm.

What good or harm does porn do? First, understand that there is absolutely no evidence that viewing porn causes men to want to rape women. If anything, sexual assault incidents are lower in countries where porn is commonly viewed.

Does porn affect the emotions or values of viewers? Those are key issues.

Many men view porn to stimulate themselves before or during masturbation. From a medical standpoint, masturbation has a positive effect on health, not a negative one. From an emotional standpoint a man who views porn might feel guilty. I have no statistics for that, but my anecdotal evidence suggests no one feels guilty.

What about porn changing a man's values? That is a real issue.

Porn is misogynistic. Men rule women in almost every porn video or movie, except those involving a dominatrix ruling over a man.

Porn "actors" tend to be sexually dysfunctional. The men have penises that are as much as twice as long as that of the normal man (that is achieved by practices that are deemed to be medically unhealthy and harmful) and often much bigger around. In pornography, size counts. Women have breast implants in about 80% of the actors.

In real life, size seldom matters. Or it shouldn't and would not unless men and women compare their own physical sizes with those of porn actors.

Women in the porn industry for years develop orifices (where men put their penises) that are much enlarged, often permanently. Yes, that does affect the control these women have over what would regularly come out of those orifices. They are physically damaged for the rest of their lives.

A man should not normally be able to have his penis stimulated for more than a few minutes before he ejaculates. Men in porn can go for a half hour or more. Women in porn seemingly want and can stand having repeated penetration for similar lengths of time with no effects of friction.

The most common act in porn videos is oral sex. Fellatio (aka blow job) is easy to film and rarely does any harm to the participants. In videos this may be done for 10 to 30 minutes as the men are so dehumanized (desensitized) that the act is no more stimulating than tying their shoes.

Some kinds of porn--let's call it gentle sex or romantic sex--are watched by couples because it causes each to become 'hot' in preparation for sex themselves. But it is hard to find videos that show men or women genuinely enjoying themselves. It's a job that sometimes pays well.

Sex as stimulation for a couple may be a problem for couples in a lasting relationship because porn videos are notoriously unromantic. The missionary position for sex is rarely used because it is too hard to film. Yet the missionary position is the most romantic method because it is face-to-face and much of the two bodies are touching at the same time. The missionary position is the method that offers the most body-to-body contact, which satisfies the human need for touch. Pornography is anything but romantic.

I will make no further judgment here on the values of porn because it is not my intention. One way or another, each of us today makes their own decision about whether they watch or not.

My only personal comment would be a hope that the producers of porn will make the characters in their productions more human so that characters can be more role models than the sexual train wrecks they are in current videos.

In conclusion, if you are looking for something romantic, don't go to porn.


Bill Allin
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