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Few Thoughts and Observations About Pornography
Pornography is rather like trying to find out
about a Beethoven symphony by having somebody tell you
about it and perhaps hum a few bars.
- Robertson Davies
Pornography is mainstream. Like it or not, porn (also
nicknamed 'porno') has become a way of life for a large
percentage of men and an increasing number of women.
I feel that people view porn because they are
looking for something. Something porn promises but never
Digging back into history we find that religions
declared anything related to the human body to be
sinful. You couldn't talk about it, look at it and in
some cases even have sexual relations without offending
That was the red flag waved in front of the bull. That
was the least risky illegal act many people could
commit, least risky in the sense of being imprisoned for
doing it. So they indulged.
Pornography exploded in popularity several years ago
when a judge in the US declared that a woman's genitals
and reproductive organs were all inside her body, out of
sight, thus it was no more wrong to view a woman's vulva
than her bare arm.
What good or harm does porn do? First, understand that
there is absolutely no evidence that viewing porn causes
men to want to rape women. If anything, sexual assault
incidents are lower in countries where porn is commonly
Does porn affect the emotions or values of viewers?
Those are key issues.
Many men view porn to stimulate themselves before or
during masturbation. From a medical standpoint,
masturbation has a positive effect on health, not a
negative one. From an emotional standpoint a man who
views porn might feel guilty. I have no statistics for
that, but my anecdotal evidence suggests no one feels
What about porn changing a man's values? That is a real
Porn is misogynistic. Men rule women in almost every
porn video or movie, except those involving a dominatrix
ruling over a man.
Porn "actors" tend to be sexually dysfunctional. The men
have penises that are as much as twice as long as that
of the normal man (that is achieved by practices that
are deemed to be medically unhealthy and harmful) and
often much bigger around. In pornography, size counts.
Women have breast implants in about 80% of the actors.
In real life, size seldom matters. Or it shouldn't and
would not unless men and women compare their own
physical sizes with those of porn actors.
Women in the porn industry for years develop orifices
(where men put their penises) that are much enlarged,
often permanently. Yes, that does affect the control
these women have over what would regularly come out of
those orifices. They are physically damaged for the rest
of their lives.
A man should not normally be able to have his penis
stimulated for more than a few minutes before he
ejaculates. Men in porn can go for a half hour or more.
Women in porn seemingly want and can stand having
repeated penetration for similar lengths of time with no
effects of friction.
The most common act in porn videos is oral sex. Fellatio
(aka blow job) is easy to film and rarely does any harm
to the participants. In videos this may be done for 10
to 30 minutes as the men are so dehumanized
(desensitized) that the act is no more stimulating than
tying their shoes.
Some kinds of porn--let's call it gentle sex or romantic
sex--are watched by couples because it causes each to
become 'hot' in preparation for sex themselves. But it
is hard to find videos that show men or women genuinely
enjoying themselves. It's a job that sometimes pays
Sex as stimulation for a couple may be a problem for
couples in a lasting relationship because porn videos
are notoriously unromantic. The missionary position for
sex is rarely used because it is too hard to film. Yet
the missionary position is the most romantic method
because it is face-to-face and much of the two bodies
are touching at the same time. The missionary position
is the method that offers the most body-to-body contact,
which satisfies the human need for touch. Pornography is
anything but romantic.
I will make no further judgment here on the values of
porn because it is not my intention. One way or another,
each of us today makes their own decision about whether
they watch or not.
My only personal comment would be a hope that the
producers of porn will make the characters in their
productions more human so that characters can be more
role models than the sexual train wrecks they are in
In conclusion, if you are looking for something
romantic, don't go to porn.
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