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social (community and personal)
problems addressed by TIA:
violence, drug abuse, alcoholism, other addictions, road rage, office
rage, bullying, homelessness, teenage rebellion, thrill-seeking and
depression, major crime, even illiteracy, high divorce rates and
personal problems that lead to neuroses, bankruptcy or emotional
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What Turning It Around
Causes and Cures for Today's
Epidemic Social Problems
Means to You
Your life, the lives of your
loved ones and almost everyone are affected by social (people) problems
in your community. We live our entire lives within the context of
social problems in our country and our community. They become so much a
part of our daily routine that we believe they cant be changed or even
problems (your personal problems, those of your family and those of
your fellow citizens) can be changed, their impact on you and your
family greatly reduced. Turning It Around shows you how this can be
such as divorce, death of a loved one, loss of job, home invasions,
road or office rage, muggings and rape devastate some people. For many,
just the fear of these happening is a social problem itself. Fear is
our most pervasive and destructive social problem.
follows is the Preface to Turning It Around: Causes and
Cures for Todays Epidemic Social Problems. Feel free to copy and print
it or to send it to anyone you feel could benefit from reading it. It's
copyrighted by the author, so please keep the authors name and book
information with it if you print it or send it to others.
it's to your benefit if as many people as possible know about this
book. The program will only succeed if many of us work together, by
emphasizing the beliefs and values that we have in common, rather than
will be a great personal help for you and your family and loved ones.
You can help others by telling them about it.
Why We All Need
someone you love could be the next victim of road rage, home invasion
or an accidental killing in a drug war. Social problems like these and
others you read on the front cover affect everyone. They affect our
families, our homes, our relationships, even our personal well-being.
Until this book, solutions to these problems seemed impossible. Most
people have given up hope that they can ever be free of these threats.
consider how this came about.
and teaching of the young are the most important responsibilities of
adults in any civilization, in any age. Primitive bands, tribes and
clans in the prehistory years of modern humans had thousands of years
to develop their skills of survival and their methods of teaching their
young so that their way of life could be maintained, could thrive and
flourish. In those days, everyone knew their social responsibilities.
They were taught to every child. Social problems were minimized because
everyone knew their role in guarding the welfare of the group.
and other adults in modern mega societies have the same
responsibilities. Teaching our young is no less important today because
there are more of us around. Its as critical to our survival today as
it was to our ancient ancestors who lived in caves. When educating the
young is not done properly and thoroughly, social problems will result.
Its simple. When people dont know what to do, theyre apt to make the
beginning of the Industrial Revolution, human population has grown so
rapidly and lifestyles have changed so quickly that survival has become
the dominant need. New ways of teaching our young were needed so that
our values, our beliefs, our family institutions, the traditions of our
way of life could be passed to the next generation. For many of us
today, the need for teaching our young beyond knowledge and skills
related to future job skills is fuzzy. There are no standards, no norms
that we teach for all families.
believe that we fulfill our primary responsibilities as parents and
teachers when we teach our children a basic core of information and
skills, plus what they will require to earn a living. To us, to earn a
living is to survive. To a lesser extent, we teach them values and
social skills, but most of this is not direct teaching. Children tend
to acquire these incidentally, such as from television, friends and
events they experience.
inherently know, though they are unable to express this, that they need
more from adults than they receive. Whether they are consciously aware
of this unknown, missing "other" or not, they experience stress and
even anxiety knowing that they need something they dont know how to
get. Children with needs they cant satisfy act out, misbehave.
majority of children accommodate themselves, over time, to become
properly functioning adults in our communities. A small minority,
unable to cope with an adult dominated world they cant understand and
that cant teach them what they need to feel significant and worthy,
latter group form the core of our future social problems. Their
behavior, often anti-social and intentionally so, affects the rest of
us. We read about them in newspapers, watch stories about them on
television, hear about them from neighbors, friends and work
associates, and sometimes suffer direct attacks on our privacy by them.
Most are in their teens, twenties or thirties.
fulfilling our roles of teaching our young children the knowledge and
skills they require to live comfortably and securely as adults, we
create the conditions for potential social problems.
of essential life skills has been a basic role of adults both through
human history and in the larger world of animals. When it does not
happen properly, problems result. Not surprisingly, those who are most
unable to cope with their lives fill that vacuum with values, beliefs,
skills and information that may not be in line with the norms of their
are not guilty because their children break laws. That denies a basic
tenet of humanity, which is freedom of choice, even for children.
Children make their own decisions. But they make decisions based on
what they know and believe, which might not be what are socially
acceptable norms. That is, what kids believe and what we would like
them to believe often are not the same.
have always tried their best to raise their children properly. But,
through generations of repeated change in the basics of family life
over the past few hundreds of years, children are no longer taught
those skills of parenting and of coping with lifes thrills and terrors,
its happiness and traumas by their parents. Todays parents, themselves
unable to cope with the downturns of life in modern times, have no
resources or knowledge base from which to teach their children. They
were not taught these by their own parents.
debate rages on between parents and school systems about who should
teach what to children, both have lost track of what kids need to know
to be good and productive adult citizens of their community. We want to
teach them facts and skills. Kids need concepts to understand the world
they are growing into. Computerized machines function on facts. People
have a need to understand their world, to make sense of what is
happening around them. If their world doesnt make sense to them, then
some will make some dreadful mistakes.
people dont understand the world around them, they may develop
psychological problems. When young people feel lost in their world,
they have a greater potential for problems because they do not have
other life structures such as jobs, position in social clubs and family
leadership roles to hold onto. Young people are in a constant learning
mode throughout every day. They have bosses wherever they go, except
within their peer groups. Even then they choose leaders. When they dont
feel secure in their world, they tend to band together with others in
similar circumstances. The door to trouble is wide open. Most adults
cant recognize this and wouldnt know what to do about it if they did.
to know how to cope with situations that happen in the lives of most
adults, at one time or another. Job loss, death of a loved one, someone
close to them contracting a serious disease are examples. When they see
their own parents unable to cope in crisis situations, such as divorce,
they become confused, stressed, anxious.
of them, marriage of their parents is how they came into existence.
When that crashes around them, it affects their concept and value of
their own being. It could be months or years later before that hidden
anxiety plays itself out in their lives. By that time, they could
become social problems along with others like them in their home
parents, we teach children what we believe they need to know. The truth
is that most of us dont know what they really need. We tend to teach
our kids what our parents taught us. If our parents didnt teach us
enough, we dont know enough to teach our own kids.
children manage to pick up the basics of what they need for their
lives, from various sources, as they grow. Their parents consider
themselves successful. Some children do not. The rest of us consider
the parents of these kids to be failures. The difference may not be the
parents themselves, but the coincidence of what the kids managed to
learn along the way.
If we, as
a society, knew what children really need and had programs for parents
and children to provide for these needs, there would be no reason for
failures. No need for anti-social behaviour on a massive scale. No need
for social problems we believe are beyond our ability to solve.
purpose of this book is to help you learn what you need to know, to
close the knowledge gap. Only when you know will you be able to begin
the process of correcting the problems.
enough of us understand can we make a difference.
support, we can make a difference in the world. We can do
something no generation in history has ever accomplished.
"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful
committed citizens can change the world; indeed it's the only thing that ever has." - Margaret Mead (1901-1978),
Around Causes and Cures for Today's Epidemic Social Problems